Repost: Should I open Pandora’s box now or wait for more evidence ?

November 17th, 2009 |

Author: Scambuster

Posted in business opportunities forum

9 Responses to “Repost: Should I open Pandora’s box now or wait for more evidence ?”

Ashley T:

November 17, 2009 at 5:49 am

I think you should talk to her…what else do you have to lose? Maybe she is waiting for you to notice, so you will ask. Maybe she is lacking something from you in someway and is wanting to bring it up, but can’t. Maybe when she goes on her business trips, she just feels better because she feels more free. Your best bet is to talk to her before it does turn into a full-blown affair. You say you may not be ready to take that path once she answers…but who IS ready? Can you ever be fully ready? Sometimes we all have to do things we don’t want to do, but usually the outcome is a little better than when we avoid it. Hope that helps!
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fallenfairy:

November 17, 2009 at 6:10 am

i would sit down with her and talk to her about how you notice subtle changes after her "business" trips. ask her if on these "trips" she is fooling around with other people or if the fact that being away from you for so long makes her want to make these subtle changes. make it clear that you are not accusing her of cheating just the changes have gotten you curious and you would like these to happen more often instead of just after her "trips". im glad that there are men out there that still take their vows seriously.
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good llak:

November 17, 2009 at 6:57 am

Divorce the Whore. You deserve better.
Sorry that I didn’t have anything else better to say.
I hope you receive better advice than this.
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Tia:

November 17, 2009 at 7:27 am

Honestly – I don’t think she is cheating.
Maybe she seems different after her business trips because she is away from you – misses you, and wants to ignite some passion when she gets home.
I think if you don’t have any concrete proof – then leave it.
You know her better than anyone though, so it’s not for us to judge one way or the other, but based on what you’ve said – and I know I have done something similar to her in long term relationships to keep the spark alive (no third party involvement), I really doubt that she is cheating…
All the best.
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oh yeah:

November 17, 2009 at 8:02 am

wow…was she your "first love" or something? guys are NOT normally like this.
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dsmiling62:

November 17, 2009 at 8:49 am

Ask and you will know the answer. Don’t and you will always wonder. Most people do not ask because they are afraid of what they will be told. The truth no matter how good or bad is much better than a lie.
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kratos:

November 17, 2009 at 9:36 am

ok..do not open pandora’s box right now,because you don’t know whats in it and you don’t have all the right keys yet..even though you only need one but make sure it’s the right one..for opening it with the wrong key will spell disaster in your life..and I’m sure you don’t want that…
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ronnny:

November 17, 2009 at 9:44 am

Just start doing more with her. take her out more often and say nice things to her. say a few dirty little things to her also. Let her know when those pants flatter her and that she is cooking your favorite dish. give her more attention to bring back what she might be missing. the reason things start is someone is looking for attention so just make sure you are the one to give her this attention and when you have problems to talk about them in a polite way as to save both of your feelings. You can work through this and get to know each others friends and co workers. so they are the two of your friends.

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robmick:

November 17, 2009 at 10:25 am

Have you considered your wife has become more open to exploring her sexuality, and is bringing you along slowly to try and help you open up as well? I believe in total upfront honesty, and have absolutely no problem with the wife exploring anything interesting that comes her way, including sexually. There are no secrets and we’re just as happy today as ever. I believe that you can grow together, rather than apart and that experience, including sexual, is key to growth. If my aim is to help her grow as a person then why would I try to keep her in a marital box? I don’t do guilt at all. Don’t want her to either. Want, as you do, for her to be happy as a person can be in a committed relationship as do you.
It sounds as if the two of you have been PD happy and still are. The best avenue for you both is guilt free open and honest communication. You’d be surprised at what the two of you have (unsaid) in common.
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